Oct 17: With increasing openness in society and changing culture certain other things are also changing. Violence, which was prevalent in marital confines and adult relationships, has now extended its wings to adolescents’ lives too. These days violence in adolescent dating relationship has become a big social problem. Even among violence verbal abuse and emotional abuse is more prevalent than physical one in adolescent population.
This verbal and emotional abuse leads girls to morbidity and mortality such as eating disorders, depression, substance use, pregnancy and suicide.
Some days ago a research published in BMC journals by Sharyl E Tascano from University of Vermont U.S. revealed that a strengthened connection with a group or circle can help female adolescents to avoid an abusive dating relationship.
Research revealed various factors which are responsible for increased violence in the dating relationship of teenager girls such as multiple partners, dating an older boy lack of academic affiliation, sexual favors, rejection, intoxication and break down in conflict resolution and jealousy.
Research further says that cases of dating violence are not reported and 50% of them continue in the relationship.
Another feature is that adolescent girls do not seek any help in such cases, may be due to lack of any consultation, they continue to suffer.
Defining abuse in a dating relationship research accepts control as the most important factor and isolation from the group is used as an instrument to gain that control. Control is gained so that victim may not leave the relationship and the circle might not intervene in the matter.
Here comes the role of the group. Group has been cited as the main source of validation of violent relationship for teens. In some cases it was found group was actively involved in the dissolution of the relationship. What mainly contributes to development of abusive behavior in the relationship is the lack of membership in a circle and its protection. This was found and research that abusive experiences were more common when lacked affiliation to group.
Circle becomes the central factor affecting female adolescents potential or risk or harm in dating relationships because norms and rules of dating are created within circle and shared by the members of the circle which leads to the increased level of safety from those not sharing rules values and norms.
Circle validates the teen’s relationship there by decreasing the level of uncertainity and when such circle is not available the female adolescent is at the risk of abusive relationship.
‘This is true that friends’ consultation and being in a circle or having good relationship with other friends helps to identify the nature of dating relationship and determine the do’s and don’ts”, says Sonia Bansal, student.
So agrees Rinky Gupta, an IP professional saying, “friend’s advice is important as we don’t quickly approach to parents and no other mechanism for consultation is available.”
Then it is better to be in-group while dating. Group provides you the protection from the negative relationship.